I Don't Know What I Need — I Just Know Something Has To Shift
- Jen Glover
- Jul 2
- 2 min read
Updated: Jul 4
Sometimes you don't know what you need.
You just know the same feeling keeps coming back.
The same tiredness.
The same frustration.
The same thoughts that keep coming back in quiet moments.
When you’re driving.
Washing up.
Or lying in bed.
"I don't want to keep feeling quite like this."
You try to get on with the day.
You put it to one side.
You tell yourself you’ll think about it later.
And then somehow...
there it is again.
After a while, it becomes harder to ignore.
Not because you know what the answer is.
And not because you've worked out exactly what needs to change.
If anything, that's part of the problem.
Because you don’t have a clear answer.
But the feeling keeps coming back.
Maybe it’s how often you feel frustrated or irritated, without fully knowing why.
Maybe it’s the feeling that something still isn’t sitting right.
Maybe it’s how rare it feels to feel completely settled.
Maybe it’s how difficult it feels to switch off.
You keep thinking you’ll figure it out.
And yet something still doesn’t quite settle.
Maybe it’s that you’ve tried a lot already.
Different ideas.
Different approaches.
Different ways of doing things.
And yet something still feels unresolved.
Not necessarily bigger.
Not necessarily urgent.
Just present.
Still there.
Still asking to be noticed.
And that can be difficult to explain.
Especially when someone asks:
"What's wrong?"
And the most honest answer is:
"I don't really know."
Not yet, anyway.
Sometimes that's the frustrating part.
Wanting an explanation.
Wanting certainty.
Wanting to know exactly what would help.
And not having those answers.
But not being able to explain something doesn't automatically mean it's not there.
Sometimes we notice things before we understand them.
A conversation you keep replaying.
A decision you keep coming back to.
A feeling you can't quite put into words.
A feeling you keep trying to put to one side.
Not because you're imagining it.
And not because you think you know better or have all the answers.
Simply because something is asking to be noticed.
You don't need to know exactly what it means yet.
And you don't need to have a plan.
You don't need to be able to explain it perfectly before it matters.
Sometimes the first step isn't understanding everything.
Sometimes it's simply allowing yourself to acknowledge:
"Something about this matters."
Even if you can't fully explain why.
🗒️ If this felt familiar, you might like to read:
This wasn’t written to give you all the answers.
Just a place to pause and recognise something that may feel familiar.
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